Once you get past the miracle of your birth, the challenge that scares most mums is the first few breastfeeding sessions.
This can be tricky, especially while you’re still in hospital.
Your hormones are everywhere, your body is tired and aching, and you’re in a foreign environment with so many eyes on you.
The midwife is watching. Your partner is there. Maybe your parents (or HIS parents!) and any friend who decided to visit!
None of this helps with your CONFIDENCE…
And in the middle of all this – with all that’s going on – you have to breastfeed (assuming you want to.)
In fact, this early on… you have to fit up to 12 breastfeeds a day in between visits from staff and family!
But Don’t Worry. I Got You 100% Covered!
There are two aspects to getting into “breastfeeding rhythm”. One is the technical aspect. The “what to do” and “how to do it”. And I have a simple 7-Step Guide For Perfect Latching Every Time that answers that.
But more important, we need to talk about keeping YOU sane and confident throughout all this!
And that aspect – the mindset aspect – is what I’m talking about in this post.
And if you ask me, it’s more important than the “technique” you use. Because if you’re not confident, everything will feel even more overwhelming and scary.
The One Key Thing Every New Mother Must Know About Breastfeeding
Here is the most important piece of advice I can give you after seeing over 17,000 babies come into this world:
It doesn’t matter what you do, you won’t stuff it up!
So PICK UP your little bundle of joy and… cuddle! 🙂
No need to rush for your new breastfeeding pillow. No need to take your bra off in advance. No need to be prepared, sit in a special chair and await the midwife’s command.
None of that! 🙂
Just lift your baby out of their cot, and place them on your chest for a cuddle.
Your baby will either quickly settle down and go back to sleep. Or they will will start to bob up and down on your chest – they’re way of signalling that they want to breastfeed.
When every session starts with a cuddle and following the natural cues your baby is giving, the whole experience shifts.
You don’t need directions from the midwife, your partner, or your parents.
You and your baby will understand each other on a level I can’t even describe in words. All it takes is to take a deep breath, cuddle, and watch their actions.
Next, remember that learning to breastfeed is a skill. Like riding a bicycle. It may take a few tries, but very soon it will become second nature!
And while you learn, you will go through lots of emotions. And that’s perfectly normal. However, there’s one emotion that you need to pay attention to.
It is the #1 confidence crusher…
You’re learning a new, very personal skill… and chances are, you’re doing it with an audience!
There may be your mother, mother-in-law, midwife, students and many others watching you breastfeed!
That is a lot of people. Want to know the SOLUTION? Want to know how to not feel embarrassed in front of all these people?
KICK EVERYONE OUT!
You simply ask your partner to be your voice, (while your busy with bub!) and kick everyone OUT!
You don’t need an audience. Your first breastfeeding sessions may feel awkward and intimidating. That’s what most mothers experience.
Confidence comes naturally as you do it more and more. In the beginning, it is very normal to feel afraid!
So please, BE KIND TO YOURSELF!
Kick everyone out, and let yourself discover motherhood at your own pace. Just you, your baby, and your special people.
And now that you’ve kicked everyone out and are cuddling your little beautiful munchkin, here are the 7 Simple Steps For Perfect Latching Every Time. Read it, apply it, and in no time – you’ll be showing everyone HOW IT’S DONE! 🙂